How to Break Up With A Roommate
Sometimes things just don’t work out. They start out beautifully–you’re happy, you make each other laugh and have similar interests–then, one day, things go south. No, we’re talking about romantic relationships … we’re talking about roommates. If your roommate’s bad habits are really starting to get to you and you just can’t take it anymore, it may be time to consider breaking up. As with any relationship, breaking up is hard to do, so use this guide for how to break up with a roommate:
Confront the Problem
Before you decide that it’s time to break up with your roommate, try to confront the problem head-on to see if there’s some way you can work things out. Are you always the one to take out the trash and do the dishes? Does your roommate smoke inside the apartment? If these things are bothering you, bring them up before packing up and leaving. It may just take a simple conversation to remedy the situation.
Make a Plan
If you’ve spoken with your roommate about your concerns and the situation hasn’t improved, it’s time to formulate a back-up plan. You’ll want to have somewhere to move before you tell your roommate you’re leaving, so talk to your friends about bunking with them for a little while. If your name is on your current lease, you’ll also need to talk to your landlord about the possibility of getting a subletter so you don’t have to pay double rent.
Avoid the Word “You”
Now that you’ve found an alternative living situation, it’s time to make your break-up speech. Before telling your roommate about your plans to move out, write a list of the reasons you’re leaving. Then, talk face-to-face. Explain why you can no longer be roommates, and be sure to avoid putting all the blame on your roomie–even if he or she is the reason you feel the need to move out. For example, instead of saying “You never pay your rent on time,” explain that you can no longer afford to live there.
Give Plenty of Notice
Even if you’re so angry with your roommate that you feel the need to break up, you should give him or her a few weeks’ notice before packing up and leaving. That way you will both have enough time to find a subletter and the apartment won’t become too much of a financial burden for either of you.
Have you ever broken up with a roommate? Tell us about it in the comments!