Moving home is a good money-saving move but eventually, you'll likely feel a desire to experience life on your own. You may start feeling like you're moving backward in life by returning to your childhood home. It's also no picnic for parents, who are unsure how to treat a child who's under their roof (but really isn't a child anymore).
Moving out of your parents' house is a major milestone and there are no airtight rules around how to move out when you decide it's time. Here's a checklist to guide you on moving out of your parents' house, from the when to the why:
1. Your commute to work takes a million hours
Living with your parents means you have no control over where their house is. And usually — it's in the suburbs. If you're working downtown, that can make for a long commute with a lot of traffic.
Staying late for a corporate happy hour or getting in early to prepare for a morning meeting becomes a lot harder with that type of commute. You're sleeping less, and that dream job will turn into the job you dread driving to each day. There's a better life waiting for you if you have some flexibility of living closer to work.
2. You love to go out
The best reason to move out of your parents' house? You're going out three or four nights a week. Our ancestors invented college for this reason. After the age of 18, you should keep your social life and your family separate — it's healthier for everyone.
3. You're still rocking a Liv and Maddie bedspread
If your walls are still covered with photos of Bruno Mars or Taylor Swift or all your eighth-grade basketball trophies are still on the shelf, your parents are rocking a shrine. How old do you have to be to move out, exactly? It's time to go.
4. Bringing your significant other home is awkward
Dating can turn into a giant mess when you live with your parents. What happens when your date wants to come home with you? What if your boyfriend falls asleep on the couch during a “Lord of the Rings" marathon?
It feels strange to have a special someone sleep in your parents' house, whether you're cuddling or trying to get busy. Make a plan for how to move out and leave the dating-related guilt behind you.
5. You still don't know how to do your own laundry
Giving up the perk of tossing your laundry in with your parents is tough, but as an adult, it's pretty vital that you're able to take care of yourself. That means sucking it up and learning to do your own laundry.
You should know how to remove your own spaghetti stains at some point, my friends.
6. You end up with a curfew … again
The thing your parents try not to tell you after you head off to college? They still worry about you! When you're living with them, worry can get out of control when they don't know when you're coming and going. To take back some control, you may end up with a curfew.
Wanting to make sure you get home in one piece can sometimes mean parents want you to come home before they go to sleep. It's easy to get angry at them when they treat you like you're 17, but it's sort of tough to argue when it's their house and their rules.
7. You find yourself playing Sudoku on Friday nights
Don't get me wrong, we're all for a good game of Sudoku until it's the highlight of my week. Living with your parents can remove you from your friends (and normal social life). While there's nothing wrong with a quiet night in, isolation gets depressing.
Living with your parents makes it harder to host, as well. In an apartment, you can turn your night into a movie marathon with friends or pull off your first dinner party. Moving out of your parents' house will allow you to have a better social life.
8. Even your family pet takes pity on you
That judgmental sideways glance he gives you as he steps over your lap? It's not just you. Fido may wonder how soon you can move out, too.
9. You're really, really tired of meatloaf
There's nothing better than home-cooked food — for the first few months. After that, the monotony of the same family meals over and over again can get a little old. There's something so gratifying about making your own meals in your own apartment. You have the chance to get creative — try cooking with beer or some other favorite ingredient.
10. They steal your Saturday to rake the lawn
The No. 1 perk of apartment living — no yard work. If you need a good reason to move out of your parents' house, this is one. We're just saying.
11. You've celebrated your 30th birthday
When your friends have begun having their own children, it's time for you to move out of your parents' house.
12. Your younger sibling is more of an adult
If family gatherings consist of your Grandma Mary praising your younger sibling for their new apartment, then looking sadly over at you, it's time to stop asking yourself, "Should I move?" Pack those boxes and leave the nest.
13. You still run into your first-grade teacher
Running into grade school teachers is heartwarming — until it happens every weekend at the gym and each time they ask what's new, you have to say you're still living with your parents. Don't be the one student they don't brag about.
14. Your parents actively offer to help you move out
When even your parents are ready to say goodbye, you can't wait any longer. Time to take a deep breath, give up the free food and expensive wine and figure out how to move.
15. The 12-year-old neighbor keeps asking you to play
Do we even need to explain this one? Or ask again: how old do you need to be?
Planning for how to move out of your parents' house
Living with your parents should have given you some practice for the real world — or at least some time to save up some money. Now that you've decided it's time to move out, make sure you have a plan. Here are some tips to prepare you for how to move out of your parents' house.
Look for a career
If you've already graduated from college or are on the verge, start seeking a position related to your preferred career. If you have a little time before you move out, consider getting an internship to begin making connections.
According to Indeed, “Gaining industry experience has significant benefits whether you are in high school, college or entering into the workforce." You can get your foot in the door while you still have the financial security of living with your parents. When the internship is over and you're moving out, you'll have some much-needed experience in your field.
As you begin to get serious about work, don't forget to have a job that can support your new financial responsibilities during your search for that dream job. Even as a server or barista, you'll bring in money that can cover the costs of living modestly.
If you're looking for a little more cash, see about taking on a managerial role.
Save, save, save
During your transition out of your parents' home, saving money is key. If you can, while living at home, save twice the amount of your monthly budget.
If you're not sure what kinds of bills you'll face, ask your parents what they've been paying for you and if they plan to continue helping you out financially even after you're gone.
Monthly expenses to consider are rent, utilities, insurance, groceries, cell phone, transportation (gas, parking, public transportation) and pocket cash for fun. It all adds up, so budget smartly.
Pick a roommate
Learning how to move out on your own, when you're not used to paying for everything yourself, can lead to financial disaster. Try finding someone to live with to cut costs. Paying half the bills will make your financial life a lot easier and your days more enjoyable.
Set a move-out date
The most effective way to move out of your parents' house is to set a date. This will not only give you a goal to work toward, but it will give your parents something to anticipate, as well. They love you, but come on, they probably can't wait to turn your old room into a gym.
Keep your parents close
Moving out doesn't mean losing your relationship with your parents. On the contrary, it will probably make your relationship stronger. You've entered into adulthood, the time when your parents can also become your friends. Continue putting time into that relationship. Your parents still have a lot of advice to offer — and you should probably take it.
It's time to learn how to move out of your parents' house
Whether you find an apartment completely furnished or begin begging your parents for a few extra pieces of furniture to bring with you, it's time to go.
Moving out on your own opens up the possibilities to live your best life. You get to pick the location, the roommate, what you keep in your fridge, whether you have cold pizza for breakfast — it's all up to you now.
Once you decide on how and when to move out of your parents' house, you can embrace and savor your independence as you settle into your new apartment — and life.